Dear colleagues after a long time im backk again :))

Firs of all  I hope you are doing great:)

Now  we are in the month of novembe, and for us (albanians) this month is very important,
a few days until the big day! On November 28 ALBANIA will celebrate the 100th anniversary of  independence!
THE FIRST ALBANIAN STATE IN MODERN HISTORY! From now' HAPPY 100th ANNIVERSARY  OF INDEPENDECE'  " Gëzuar 100 vjetori i pavarsise Shqipëri "

Yours
ARIJETA

Dear colleagues I wish you much luck on the exam on Wednesday,  :) Give your best!

AO

Happy mothers day :)))

It is impossible to define the word "Mother". She is an irreplaceable person in a child's life. She is kind, compassionate, caring, wise and guides her child to become the best person he/she can be. This is our way of saying thank you to all the mothers in the world. 

"No one in the world can take the place of your mother right or wrong, from her viewpoint you are always right, She may scold you for little things, but never for the big ones!"

Arijeta Oda 

How we Respond to Conflict: Thoughts, Feelings, and Physical Responses

Dear colleagues I just read something about conflcit in generally how we respond to conflict... and i want to share with you!

In addition to the behavioral responses summarized by the various conflict styles, we have emotional, cognitive and physical responses to conflict. These are important windows into our experience during conflict, for they frequently tell us more about what is the true source of threat that we perceive; by understanding our thoughts, feelings and physical responses to conflict, we may get better insights into the best potential solutions to the situation.

Emotional responses: These are the feelings we experience in conflict, ranging from anger and fear to despair and confusion. Emotional responses are often misunderstood, as people tend to believe that others feel the same as they do. Thus, differing emotional responses are confusing and, at times, threatening.

• Cognitive responses: These are our ideas and thoughts about a conflict, often present as inner voices or internal observers in the midst of a situation. Through sub-vocalization (i.e., self-talk), we come to understand these cognitive responses. For example, we might think any of the following things in response to another person taking a parking spot just as we are ready to park:

"That jerk! Who does he think he is! What a sense of entitlement!"

or:

"I wonder if he realizes what he has done. He seems lost in his own thoughts. I hope he is okay."

or:

"What am I supposed to do? Now I'm going to be late for my meeting… Should I say something to him? What if he gets mad at me?"

Such differing cognitive responses contribute to emotional and behavioral responses, where self-talk can either promote a positive or negative feedback loop in the situation.


Physical responses: These responses can play an important role in our ability to meet our needs in the conflict. They include heightened stress, bodily tension, increased perspiration, tunnel vision, shallow or accelerated breathing, nausea, and rapid heartbeat. These responses are similar to those we experience in high-anxiety situations, and they may be managed through stress management techniques. Establishing a calmer environment in which emotions can be managed is more likely if the physical response is addressed effectively.

:-Adapted from Harry Webne-Behrman, The Practice of Facilitation: Managing Group Process and Solving Problems, Quorum Books, Greenwood Publishing, 1998, by permission of the author.:))

BEST A.O

....Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you're down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times an dthe confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end....

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” 
― C.S. Lewis 

The Most Important Interview Non-Verbals

Dear colleagues:-
Many interviews fail because of lack of proper communication. But communication is more than just what you say. Often it's the nonverbal communication that we are least aware of, yet speaks the loudest. Following are the top five nonverbals, ranked in order of importance, when it comes to interviewing:

• Eye Contact -  If you have a habit of looking away while listening, it shows lack of interest and a short attention span. If you fail to maintain eye contact while speaking, at a minimum it shows lack of confidence in what you are saying and at a maximum may send the subtle indication that you may be lying. Don't just assume you have good eye contact. Ask. Watch. Then practice. Ask others if you ever lack proper eye contact. If they respond that they did notice, ask if it was during speaking or listening. Take note. Next, watch yourself on videotape. It doesn't necessarily have to be your mock interview videotape. In fact, if you were videotaped informally (that is, you were not aware you were being taped), this will typically provide even stronger evidence. Then sit down with a friend and practice until you are comfortable maintaining sincere, continuous eye contact.
• Facial Expressions - It has continually amazed me when interviewing college students of the large number of people who were totally unaware of the sullen, bewildered, or even mildly hysterical expression plastered on their faces--often during the entire course of the interview! It's almost as if four years of college has left some students brain dead or worse. Some recruiters (not myself, of course) have been known to hang humorous labels on these students, such as "Ms. Bewildered" (who looked quizzical during the interview) or "Mr. Psycho-Ax-Murderer" (who looked wide-eyed and determined to do something, although you dare not ask what!). Take a good, long, hard look at yourself in the mirror. Look at yourself as others would. Then modify your facial expressions--first eliminate any negative overall characteristics that might exist, then add a simple feature that nearly every interviewee forgets--a smile! Not some stupid Bart Simpson grin, but a true and genuine smile that tells me you are a happy person and delighted to be interviewing with our company today. Think about it--who would you rather spend thirty minutes with?
• Posture - Posture sends the signal of your confidence and power potential. Stand tall, walk tall, and most of all, sit tall. I don't say this to offend the "short people" of the world--in fact, I'm under 5'5", which is a full seven inches shorter than your proverbial 6-footer IBMer. It's a myth--I used to work for IBM along with several other "vertically challenged" people. Height is not what's important, posture is. And when you are seated, make sure you sit at the front edge of the chair, slightly leaning forward, intent on the subject at hand. Your best posture is to always be learning forward slightly, moving within an overall range of no more than 10 back or 20 forward.
• Gestures - Contrary to popular belief, gestures should be very limited during the interview. So please don't use artificial gestures to supposedly heighten the importance of the issue at hand (pardon the pun). It will merely come off as theatrical. When you do use gestures, make sure they are sincere and meaningful.
• Space - Recognize the boundaries of your personal space and that of others. If you are typical of most Americans, it will range between 30 and 36 inches. Be prepared, however, not to back up or move away from someone who has a personal space that is smaller than your own. Hang in there, take a deep breath, and stand your ground. For most of us, merely the awareness of our personal space is enough to consciously prompt us to stand firm. If you have a smaller than average personal space, make sure you keep your distance so that you don't intimidate someone who possesses a larger personal space.
• P.S. If you really want to have fun at a social gathering, step inside the personal space boundary of a friend. With some practice, you can back them up around the entire room without them even being aware of what's happening. But beware. It can also happen to you.